The Risky Business of Bad Bossing


ESPN 1700 Radio Talk Show Host and Mortgage Lender Buddy Greene invites Dr. Debra Dupree live to talk about the Risky Business of Bad Bossing.  Find out how bad bossing has its roots in early attachment, the cost and impact of bad bossing on YOU, and the risky business for letting it go on!

Feeling unsafe triggers us emotionally. A whole chain of reactions happens physiologically, generating hormones and neurotransmitters that throw off our sense of cognitive and emotional balance…our sense of safety and security. So how can we create a sense of psychological safety…for ourselves and others…and why does it even matter? Why do we need to be fully aware of the perils of bad bossing?   Listen in and learn!

Dr. Debra regularly speaks to organizations like yours on “how to manage up” when you have a “bad boss” as well as what can be done to turn that “bad boss” around, particularly when the bad boss is YOU!


Avoiding a Bad Boss Reputation and turning into an Unbelievable Leader

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People are people whether at work or at home and relationships ARE work.  They’re like a garden…needing preparation, maintenance, nurturing and and space to grow.  My passion goes all the way back to my childhood growing up in a family that didn’t do well with conflict.  I’ve spent my entire career working with people in relationships but got curious about how good people end up as bad bosses.  So I went back to school to learn more…and started looking for trouble!

Gallup took an in-depth look at the “State of the Workplace”  and found that employee disengagement costs American businesses $359 billion across the nation!

  • Do you know that nearly half of all conflicts at work are directly related to personality clashes…
  • Three out of ten of those conflicts comes from bad bossing.
  • Good people leave bad bossing, not good organizations!

As I look across the room, I see a wealth of experience, wisdom and leadership…so let’s think back to a time in our careers where we were dealing with a bad boss and the impact it had on us.   With a show of hands, how many of you have worked for a BIG BAD BOSS?

Now, let me ask you this…who is or has been a bad boss at some point in their lives?

What are some words to describe Good Bosses?   When you think of Bad Bosses, what words come up?  …quite a difference, right?  Who want to be identified with these kinds of negative words? But do others perceive us this way and we don’t even know it.  Do you really know the impact of your leadership style?

Think about the kinds of conflicts you’ve experienced…firsthand or among your clients.

  • What’s really at the heart of those conflicts?
  • It’s really about understanding how we come across to others…how we impact…and how we can provoke an emotional reaction.
  • It takes courage and curiosity to really understand the emotional intelligence of how we engage.
  • It’s the power of connections that pulls people and projects together.

I GO LOOKING FOR TROUBLE and here’s how I do it.

1)         Heineken contacted me in 2013…they were at their wits end after a year of trying to resolve a conflict internally between two top account managers.  The conflict had grown so difficult that it was impacting one of their big accounts.  One or both of the employees was going to have to go if things didn’t change. In just 3 months through coaching and preparing for mediation, we were able to unravel a year of hostility.

2)         Last year, a trusted colleague called upon me to help one of his longtime friends and progenitor of a family-owned business.  Revenues were down after the recession, power struggles had broken out, financial choke-holds put in place, and family members and employees were not talking.  By helping Mom and Dad look at their own behavior, they were able to recognize the impact they had on the family dynamics and we were able to come up with options for restructuring the organization in ways that better met the family members’ needs.

3)         A couple of years ago, I worked with a 3rd generation family-owned business.  Dad hit 60 and wanted to bring in his stepson and 2 daughters, all in their very early 20’s, into the family business.  Great idea but riddled with family dynamics.  Mom found me out of frustration with the intense sibling rivalry being carried out in the workplace…Dad felt immobilized to do  much about it.  Within five months, we were able to define roles and responsibilities, establish boundaries between appropriate workplace behavior and unhealthy family dynamics, establish Dad’s leadership in the business as well as mediate through some of their differences.

Who has experienced something situations like these?  Let’s see a show of hands.  These conversations DO take time, energy and effort–but compared to the real costs of sticky situations, it’s a small investment. That’s what we can do together…we can be on the watch, looking for trouble that gets in the way of profitable relationships and begin to turn things around.

Oh!…remember your phone leaning on the stand in front of you…this is my gift to you…when things get messy…Call me to take the next step in developing UNBELIEVABLE LEADERSHIP in all that you do!  With a little help bad bosses can be great leaders.

Crushing Conflicts to Boost Your Bottomline

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Relationships are at the core of everything we do. And when conflict arises in the workplace it can have a toll, not only on our emotional capacity, but also the bottomline results of the business. Studies show that conflict effects productivity, synergy, culture, and turnover. As the leader of a team, how do you avoid this? And how do you effectively manage conflict when you see it growing in your environment before it becomes detrimental? Listen in and learn from an expert in the field!

Join us for Women Leading the Way Radio as we interview Debra Dupree, PsyD Founder of Relationships-At-Work Consulting. With over 20 years of experience in leadership development, corporate training, and a doctorate degree in psychology she delivers lessons on the school of hard knocks and how to turn employees into great leaders. Debra will share with us her experience, techniques, and philosophy on how to implement and maximize business based strategies that will give new life to your business.

ESPN “Lunch and Learn” Radio Interview with Dr. Debra Dupree

On Wednesday, August 26, “Lunch And Learn Radio Show” on ESPN 1700 AM interviewed Dr. Debra Dupree. They discussed how Divorce Mediation was different from traditional methods of divorce and how important the psychological and social aspects of the brain affect negotiations within the context of divorce. It was an informative and inspiring interview.

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ESPN “Inside the Law” Radio Interview with Dr. Debra Dupree & CDFA Jo-Ann Little

On Tuesday, July 2, at 2:00 pm “Inside The Law” on ESPN 1700 AM interviewed JoAnn C Little of Triad Divorce Mediation along with Dr. Debra Dupree. They discussed how Triad Divorce Mediation was different from traditional methods of divorce and how important the psychological and social aspects of the brain affect negotiations within the context of divorce. It was an informative and inspiring interview.

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The Dayton Chapter of Women of Teradata recently sponsored a webinar on Emotional Intelligence by Dr. Debra Dupree, Relationships at Work, Inc. on April 8, 2015.

This program was designed to educate and enhance awareness of participants on how to build Emotional Intelligence at home and at work.  We looked at the neuroscience behind behavior and how to manage emotions when working under pressure.  The relationship to managing multiple projects and meeting deadlines was explored so that participants know how to deliver their best, even in chaotic times.

What do we gain when we do this?  In the workplace, we can better manage relationships, become more adept in our social interactions, and know how we impact others with our emotions.  This leads to better performance, profitability and genuine happiness!

For those were unable to attend, or would like to listen to the presentation, here is a link to the recording and a PDF of the slides.  For a PDF of additional resources provided by Dr. D. following the web seminar, click here to contact her for more information.

Archived Webex (streaming recorded link, 58 minutes)

Ten Steps to Leadership Excellence

March 11-12, 2015:  Two days with the United States Marine Corps Logistic Base (MCLB), Barstow, CA and Dr. Debra Dupree, sponsored by SKILLPATH Corporate Strategies.

A good leader is the lifeblood of any organization. Under his or her direction, your team knows where it’s headed, understands what’s expected and gets the job done.  Goals are met and success is achieved. It’s a “both-gain” outcome in the end.

I worked with 20 leaders at MCLB over two days in March and we laughed, we learned, we explored, and uncovered the challenges to being great leaders.  It was invigorating to see the eyes light up and energy level soar as participants gained insight and new learning as to the possibilities available.  We took real life problems and came up with solutions on what to do differently moving forward.  Here’s what the folks at MCLB learned:

  • How to inspire their teams to achieve true greatness—personally, professionally and for their organization.
  • How to make decisions quickly, rationally and appropriately for their organization.
  • How to overcome barriers by confidently overseeing and guiding all levels of employee performance.
  • The secrets and strategies that make a successful and effective leader.
  • How to gain leadership confidence to effectively command groups, large or small .
  • Understanding leadership styles and how to best use it to their group’s advantage.
  • Removing the barriers to creative leadership thinking and problem solving.
  • Building solid teams that can dramatically multiply their chances for success.
  • Learning the latest performance management tools.
  • How to minimize and solve performance problems early.

No matter what you’ve already achieved, no matter where you are in the organization, no matter what your leadership goals may be, you can profit from learning more about focused leadership philosophy, leadership excellence, emotional intelligence, communication skills building and practical application of what you learn.  Just like all of us know how to breathe, few of us do it really effectively.  Is this what happens to your leadership?

Here’s what a couple of key participants had to say as we wrapped things up…

“Eloquently and magnificently presented!  Unique and creative delivery style while clearly teaching the message. Dr. Dupree is a gift as a presenter and has instilled very positive and enriching changes that I am motivated to implement and reflect on daily.  Please bring her back!“

– S. Lamey, Division Head, Fitness/Wellness/Health Promotion

“Dr. Dupree did an excellent job.  I have a hard time buying into philosophies normally, and tend to “critical think” them to death.  This information was logical and presented in a way that I like to learn.”

– P. Frisbie, Financial Management Analyst, Marine Corps Logistics Base

Is this what you would like to hear your leadership say?  Contact me now to bring me to YOUR organization.  Schedule your complimentary 30-minute consultation to take the next step!

DrDebraDupreeDr. Debra Dupree is a business mediator and leadership coach with over 25 years of experience.  Dr. Dupree brings humor, insight, and to leadership development as a motivational speaker, psychotherapist for executives, and conflict coach.  Contact her now to learn more about what she uncovered in her 2014 Doctoral Dissertation on the psychology of good bosses versus bad bosses.

Phone:     1.800.743.1973

Twitter:    @RTMcoach