Compel Don’t Sell and The Risky Business of Bad Bossing

Listen in to ESPN Host Buddy Greene, your financial lender, as he has a conversation with Speaker and Television Host Shirlene Reeves and Speaker and Author Dr. Debra Dupree as they talk about travel,  Shirlene’s “Compel Don’t Sell” program, and Debra’s “Avoid the Risky Business of Bad Bossing” training and coaching services for more information on maximizing your earning potential by maximizing your emotional potential.

A great day with Buddy Greene, Shirlene Reeves & Debra Dupree

A great day with Buddy Greene, Shirlene Reeves & Debra Dupree





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The Risky Business of Bad Bossing

Psychologist and founder of Relationships at Work, Inc,  Dr. Debra Dupree, is here to uncover the impact of bad bossing and what can be done about it.

 The Risky Business of Bad Bossing

  • What is bad bossing all about?
  • What should someone do when confronted with a bad boss?
  • How does one change a bad boss?
  • What are the three things they most need to know that can change their lives?

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Stop Running from Conflict and Learn How to Address It!

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Click here to listen to Podcast:  Running from Conflict by Dr. Debra Dupree.

When a diverse group of people work together daily, it is no surprise that conflict can arise. Trying to downplay the importance and viewing the reason for the conflict as ‘petty’ is never a good alternative to creating a productive and positive workplace. We each have our opinions and points of view. It is when we consider ours right and the others wrong (or ‘crazy, stupid or unimportant’) that conflict can occur, fester and create significant issues. Dr. Debra Dupree is an acknowledged mediator in the area of conflict and has successfully intervened and brought resolution to situations that were growing out of control and impossible. Every manager and leader must be willing to address issues of conflict head-on and seek amenable resolutions. Dr. Dupree can get you on that road.

Avoiding a Bad Boss Reputation and turning into an Unbelievable Leader

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People are people whether at work or at home and relationships ARE work.  They’re like a garden…needing preparation, maintenance, nurturing and and space to grow.  My passion goes all the way back to my childhood growing up in a family that didn’t do well with conflict.  I’ve spent my entire career working with people in relationships but got curious about how good people end up as bad bosses.  So I went back to school to learn more…and started looking for trouble!

Gallup took an in-depth look at the “State of the Workplace”  and found that employee disengagement costs American businesses $359 billion across the nation!

  • Do you know that nearly half of all conflicts at work are directly related to personality clashes…
  • Three out of ten of those conflicts comes from bad bossing.
  • Good people leave bad bossing, not good organizations!

As I look across the room, I see a wealth of experience, wisdom and leadership…so let’s think back to a time in our careers where we were dealing with a bad boss and the impact it had on us.   With a show of hands, how many of you have worked for a BIG BAD BOSS?

Now, let me ask you this…who is or has been a bad boss at some point in their lives?

What are some words to describe Good Bosses?   When you think of Bad Bosses, what words come up?  …quite a difference, right?  Who want to be identified with these kinds of negative words? But do others perceive us this way and we don’t even know it.  Do you really know the impact of your leadership style?

Think about the kinds of conflicts you’ve experienced…firsthand or among your clients.

  • What’s really at the heart of those conflicts?
  • It’s really about understanding how we come across to others…how we impact…and how we can provoke an emotional reaction.
  • It takes courage and curiosity to really understand the emotional intelligence of how we engage.
  • It’s the power of connections that pulls people and projects together.

I GO LOOKING FOR TROUBLE and here’s how I do it.

1)         Heineken contacted me in 2013…they were at their wits end after a year of trying to resolve a conflict internally between two top account managers.  The conflict had grown so difficult that it was impacting one of their big accounts.  One or both of the employees was going to have to go if things didn’t change. In just 3 months through coaching and preparing for mediation, we were able to unravel a year of hostility.

2)         Last year, a trusted colleague called upon me to help one of his longtime friends and progenitor of a family-owned business.  Revenues were down after the recession, power struggles had broken out, financial choke-holds put in place, and family members and employees were not talking.  By helping Mom and Dad look at their own behavior, they were able to recognize the impact they had on the family dynamics and we were able to come up with options for restructuring the organization in ways that better met the family members’ needs.

3)         A couple of years ago, I worked with a 3rd generation family-owned business.  Dad hit 60 and wanted to bring in his stepson and 2 daughters, all in their very early 20’s, into the family business.  Great idea but riddled with family dynamics.  Mom found me out of frustration with the intense sibling rivalry being carried out in the workplace…Dad felt immobilized to do  much about it.  Within five months, we were able to define roles and responsibilities, establish boundaries between appropriate workplace behavior and unhealthy family dynamics, establish Dad’s leadership in the business as well as mediate through some of their differences.

Who has experienced something situations like these?  Let’s see a show of hands.  These conversations DO take time, energy and effort–but compared to the real costs of sticky situations, it’s a small investment. That’s what we can do together…we can be on the watch, looking for trouble that gets in the way of profitable relationships and begin to turn things around.

Oh!…remember your phone leaning on the stand in front of you…this is my gift to you…when things get messy…Call me to take the next step in developing UNBELIEVABLE LEADERSHIP in all that you do!  With a little help bad bosses can be great leaders.

Crushing Conflicts to Boost Your Bottomline

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Relationships are at the core of everything we do. And when conflict arises in the workplace it can have a toll, not only on our emotional capacity, but also the bottomline results of the business. Studies show that conflict effects productivity, synergy, culture, and turnover. As the leader of a team, how do you avoid this? And how do you effectively manage conflict when you see it growing in your environment before it becomes detrimental? Listen in and learn from an expert in the field!

Join us for Women Leading the Way Radio as we interview Debra Dupree, PsyD Founder of Relationships-At-Work Consulting. With over 20 years of experience in leadership development, corporate training, and a doctorate degree in psychology she delivers lessons on the school of hard knocks and how to turn employees into great leaders. Debra will share with us her experience, techniques, and philosophy on how to implement and maximize business based strategies that will give new life to your business.

Attachment and Good Bosses Podcast on Radio Reflection

On June 5, 2015, “Radio Reflection” podcast host Stacie Patterson interviewed Dr. Debra Dupree on Attachment and Good Bosses. 

According to Debra Dupree, Ph.D. attachment theory has a lot to say about who will be a good boss.

Debra Dupree Discusses Attachment and Good Bosses

Good bosses are aware, is in tune with who they are as individuals, know what qualities they bring to their leadership role are in tune with those around them.  They are often described as good listeners, charismatic personable, motivational, self-aware and aware of others.  In contrast problematic supervisors are often very productive and driven to succeed.  Indeed their drive, ability to work long hours and focus on the bottom line may be the reason they are loved by corporations and their Boards of Directors.  Despite their bottom-line success bad bosses often lack “soft skills” and are considered pushy, self-centered, dismissive and someone who puts your own agenda ahead of everybody else.

Debra has learned that often good bosses were securely attached as children. However, even for people who were not securely attached or suffered trauma as children, they have the ability to develop the skills necessary to successfully lead others.  Failure to managers become good bosses may lead to burnout, lower profits and high staff turnover rates.  Leadership coaches and leadership psychotherapists can help managers increase their emotional intelligence, become more self-aware and be better bosses.

For employees who are managed by a challenging supervisor, Debra suggests asking these questions:

  • What can you do differently in order make do with the situation and improve upon the situation?
  • Why do some of these behaviors bother me?
  • What is it in my own background that is causing problems?

Debra recognizes that it is often challenging for employees to talk to their supervisors about their supervisor’s behavior but also believes that it is often worthwhile. When addressing her concerns with a supervisor, the employee may say things like:

  • When I experience this kind of behavior then this is how I’m impacted and then affects my ability to deliver what you asked me to do.
  • That affects my ability to deliver the quality of what I know you want from me.
  • How can I help you to help me to help you?
  • You are my boss. I do want to do the best I can do. But these behaviors are getting in my way.


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The Power of Connections: Emotional Intelligence at Work

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ESPN “Inside the Law” Radio Interview with Dr. Debra Dupree & CDFA Jo-Ann Little

On Tuesday, July 2, at 2:00 pm “Inside The Law” on ESPN 1700 AM interviewed JoAnn C Little of Triad Divorce Mediation along with Dr. Debra Dupree. They discussed how Triad Divorce Mediation was different from traditional methods of divorce and how important the psychological and social aspects of the brain affect negotiations within the context of divorce. It was an informative and inspiring interview.

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Attachment and Good Bosses…how to manage up!

I am excited to bring to you this podcast on Attachment and Good Bosses: Ep. 14.  This is brought to you by RadioReflection, hosted by Stacie Patterson, Esq.

Good bosses are aware, are in tune with who they are as individuals, know what qualities they bring to their leadership role, and are in tune with those around them. In contrast, and despite their bottom-line success, bad bosses often lack “soft skills” and are considered pushy, self-centered, dismissive when someone puts their own agenda ahead of everybody else. For employees who are managed by a challenging supervisor, listen and learn some tips for what can be done.


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