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UNCOVERED! Choosing BLISS to Manage Workplace Conflicts

We all deal with conflicts, right?  What would it be like if you knew how to handle them right the first time…every time?

Best-selling author, Moneeka Sawyer, shared her 5-step process for choosing BLISS when dealing with conflicts in the workplace.  We talked about how to “STOP” so you can “be in the moment” to tune into the experience of what you’re feeling…physically and emotionally! And, “BREATHE” so you can “think through the moment.” This helps you choose a course of action that “constructively” manages the moment instead “destructively” escalating the conflict.

What is that emotion that comes up?  Are you feeling FEAR, ANGER, GUILT or HAPPINESS?  These four core emotions are what drives all thinking and behavior.  When we feel any one of the first three, we experience a lack of “psychological safety.”  And, when we feel unsafe, our “drive to survive” kicks in and we react with an instinctual reaction of fight, flight or freeze!  This is where we tend to say things that are hurtful, harmful and damaging…things we can’t take back!

When we pay attention to what we physically feel, we can use those signs to STOP, be in the moment, and BREATHE our way to a calmer course of action.  What would it be like if you could CHOOSE a calmer, peaceful way to conflicts?

Join us to UNCOVER tips and insights on how to handle those difficult people and difficult situations at work…and at home!  And, live a life of BLISS!

 

Emotional Intelligence for Professional Success: What I Learned From Dr. Debra Dupree of Relationships at Work

This past week, Dr. Debra Dupree from Relationships at Work was my guest on Critical Mass Radio Show. Dr. Dupree is taking strides when it comes to helping people recover from drama and trauma from their past and helps them re­direct to discover positive karma. She uses her personal experience to help shape and mold people into becoming a new person that’s ready for success and stronger performances. Here are three takeaways from my time with Dr. Debra Dupree on Critical Mass Radio Show:

1.Emotions are hard­-wired. Most, if not all, of us have experienced trauma in some form throughout our lives. While we usually think of trauma as post-­traumatic stress that can occur from major traumas or disasters, there are also less extreme traumas that can still cause a significant impact in a person’s life, such as the loss of a job, a failing marriage, the lost of a loved one, or even something like not succeeding in personal and professional goals. These events result in a misdirected firing of our neurons in the brain that actually can help contribute to how we feel and act in a given situation.

2. Present yourself in a positive way. The primary way to avoid a bad “bossing” reputation in your given leadership position is to take a look at how you are preventing yourself. This includes physical presentation, body language, as well as vocal tones. These small changes can allow you to reach new levels in your ability to lead and present in a powerful, persuasive, and influential way.

3. Emotional intelligence matters. Believe it or not, intellect, or IQ, is only about 30% of who we are. The majority of who we are is a result of our emotional intelligence, which is rooted in developing self-­awareness, knowing your triggers and your physiological and emotional responses to them. The four core emotions are fear, anger, shame and happiness. Three out of four of these core emotions have a negative basis. Because so much of our emotional experience is negative by nature, it is essential to learn how to monitor and self­-manage these feelings, and figure out what sources typically trigger negative emotional responses. It is also essential to develop an awareness of others and be aware of how your approach to interactions impacts the people you are working with. Two other primary elements of emotional intelligence include the ability to manage relationships and develop the people around you.

To learn more about Dr. Debra Dupree and her work with Relationships and Work, visit www.relationships-at-work.com.

Listen to our full interview with Dr. Dupree below:


http://podcast.criticalmassforbusiness.com/e/episode-962-critical-mass-radio-show-december-6-2016-dr-debra-dupree/

 

MENSA Members Get Smart About Collaborative Divorce

Members of the Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego spoke at the 2016 MENSA annual gathering, held over the Fourth of July weekend at the Town & Country Resort. A tradition for MENSA since 1963, the Annual Gathering has grown from a two-day meet-and-greet in New York to a sprawling and diverse collection of programs, talks, games and entertainment spanning the July 4th weekend.

Mensa-917xMembers Garrison Klueck, Ginita Wall, Debra Dupree and Frank Nageotte introduced MENSA members to the options available to couples considering divorce, including Collaborative Divorce, maximizing their ability to make good decisions during this difficult and challenging time.

CFLG San Diego’s members work together to learn, practice, and pMensa-948xromote Collaborative processes for problem solving and the peaceful resolution of family law issues, with an eye toward preserving the emotional, as well as the financial, assets of the family. Its goal is to transform the resolution of family law issues through respectful, Collaborative processes that protect the integrity and health of family relationships and eliminate the need for families to resort to litigation.