Animal Game

with Dr. Debra Dupree, PsyD, LMFT


What's Your Conflict Management Style?

The quiz below allows you to reflect on how you handle conflict. Having some fun around an animal theme, we can then better understand our own style as well as the styles of others.

**While doing this activity, keep in mind that ALL conflict management styles have their strengths and weakness. Make sure to point out that there is no "right" way to handle conflict, and people's management styles may change based on the situation they are in.


What to do: There are 15 statements. Each presents an approach for dealing with conflict. Using a rating scale of 1 to 5, mark your number for each

1 = Rarely, if ever, 2 = Not very often, 3 = Sometimes, 4 = Very often, 5 = Always

Answer as you actually behave, not the way you think you should!

a. I argue my case with peers, colleagues and coworkers to demonstrate the merits of the position I take.

Rarely Not very often Sometimes Very often Always

b. I try to reach compromises through negotiation.

Rarely Not very often Sometimes Very often Always

c. I attempt to meet the expectation of others.

Rarely Not very often Sometimes Very often Always

d. I seek to investigate issues with others in order to find solutions that are mutually acceptable.

Rarely Not very often Sometimes Very often Always

e. I am firm in resolve when it comes to defending my side of the issue.

Rarely Not very often Sometimes Very often Always

f. I try to avoid being singled out, keeping conflict with others to myself.

Rarely Not very often Sometimes Very often Always

g. I uphold my solutions to problems.

Rarely Not very often Sometimes Very often Always

h. I compromise in order to reach solutions.

Rarely Not very often Sometimes Very often Always

i. I trade important information with others so that problems can be solved together.

Rarely Not very often Sometimes Very often Always

j. I avoid discussing my differences with others.

Rarely Not very often Sometimes Very often Always

k. I try to accommodate the wishes of my peers and colleagues.

Rarely Not very often Sometimes Very often Always

l. I seek to bring everyone's concerns out into the open in order to resolve disputes in the best possible way.

Rarely Not very often Sometimes Very often Always

m. I put forward middles positions in efforts to break deadlocks.

Rarely Not very often Sometimes Very often Always

n. I accept the recommendations of colleagues, peers, and coworkers.

Rarely Not very often Sometimes Very often Always

o. I avoid hard feelings by keeping my disagreements with others to myself.

Rarely Not very often Sometimes Very often Always

Scoring: The letters corresponding to the 15 statements above are listed below under five animal categories. Each category contains the letters of three statements. Record the number you placed next to each statement. Calculate the total under each category.

Competing/Forcing Shark

Total:

Collaborating Owl

Total:

Avoiding Turtle

Total:

Accommodating Teddy Bear

Total:

Compromising Fox

Total:

Results

My dominant style is (Your Highest score)

My back-up style is (Your second Highest score)